maymay:

lipstickandligature:

tooyoungforthelivingdead:

Fantasies about pretty young white women being controlled, hurt and dominated by men have always been the the part of kink that nobody ever really had a problem with. During the crackdowns on the fetish and kink communities in the 1980s and early 1990s, submissive heterosexual women and their play partners were rarely targeted for prosecution. Today, when you think of ‘fetish’, many people think of Jean Paul Gaultier models strutting the runway in elegant leathers, and arty snaps of willowy girls doing Japanese rope bondage in low-lit loft apartments . You might not be quite so quick to picture middle-aged gay couples in matching latex, or enormous, hairy men called Nigel waddling around fetish clubs with joysticks up their bottoms and big grins on their faces, but kink has always been as much about them as it has been about the beautiful young girls, breakable or pretending to break others, who tend anyway to have less disposable income to spend on rubber.

Here are some non-standard sexual trends that editors at Newsweek, Glamour and Cosmopolitan are less keen to make headlines out of: poor women fucking. Black women fucking. Queer women fucking. Old women fucking. Fat women fucking, ugly women fucking, bossy, arrogant women fucking. Women who are dominant in bed. Women who like to penetrate men with big pink strap-ons. Women who want multiple sexual partners at once or in succession. Women who just want to go to bed early with a cup of tea, an Anna Span DVD and a spiked dildo the size of an eggplant. Here are some more: sex workers who want to be treated like workers, rather than social pariahs. men who want to get fucked. Men who are gentle and submissive in bed. Men who don’t enjoy penetrative sex. Men for whom sex is an overwhelming emotional experience. I guarantee you that all of these things go on, but any of them might actually destabilise for a second our cultural narrative of sex, gender and power, so none of them are allowed to be ‘trends’.

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YES, YES! A THOUSAND TIMES YES!

Thirded.

Also, this snippet was so good that I had to go looking for its source. I found it, unsurprisingly, on Penny Red’s blog. And then I had to scroll down to the comments. And, there, I was surprised to find myself being referenced.

Hmm.

I was waiting for this.

When Tony’s educating Steve about modern day culture, he is very careful to let Steve form his own opinions on gay rights. Steve nods, his face blank, and asks a few questions.

A few days later he knocks on Tony’s door and Tony opens it and is surprised to see a tiny girl next to Steve, a…

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Coat
Dante, autumn/winter 1996–97
Black wool felt embroidered with gold bullion cord
From the collection of Isabella Blow courtesy of the Hon. Daphne Guinness

Photographed by Sølve Sundsbø

GET ON MAH BAWDEH!

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emilyjfields:

A portrait-mosaic of Rick Santorum made entirely of porn, mostly hardcore and/or gay.

Thank you, Internet. This is why I fell in love with you.

if it only came in my size…

blackpeacenow:

Black Peace Now Coordinate:

• Ruffle Vest
• Open Back Corset Blouse
• Chiffon Side Tie Pants
• Three Ring Cross choker
• Metal Frame Crown Pin
• Stripe Bolo with Crown Motif

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nanekirin:

Nyan Cat Dress

lacarpa:

Liz Clements é um ilustrador freelancer Inglês que manda super bem em trabalhos com persangens tatuados.

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this is inspired…

maymay:

This past weekend, I had the good fortune of participating in the Third Annual Five College Queer Sexuality and Gender Conference. Sadly, I’d been working myself to the bone and, as a result, I didn’t feel like I had as much energy for the conference as I wanted to have, but I still really enjoyed my time there.

While without a doubt the highlight of the conference was Rev. Irene Monroe’s inspiring and challenging keynote on the intersection of racism and homophobia (video to be published soon, I hope!), another highlight actually came at the end of the day, when one of my friends ran up to me with this card in her hand and said, “Maymay! Have you seen these?”

I hadn’t, so I took a look. It’s a yellow card, about the size of a standard business card, whose front reads:

Rain Check

At the present time, one or more of us is unable to give consent. However, at a later date, we may be interested in sucking face (among other things to be discussed at said later date)….

On the back, the text reads, “I’ll take a rain check…”, and is followed by two empty lines whose labels prompt you to write down a name and a phone number.

My eyes lit up. “Oh my god, I am so totally going to use this,” I told my friend.

“Right‽” she exclaimed. “There’s a whole stack of them! Take some!” She handed me a pile.

I love these because they’re a simple tool to make something that’s frequently invisible visible. Frequently, saying “no” in-the-now is often interpreted as a permanent rejection forever, even when that’s not actually what’s being conveyed. I think this tendency to project the current state of things into the future is part of what makes it difficult for some people to say “no” in the first place.

The fear, at least some of the times, at least for me, is that if I don’t say yes right now, I’ll never get the chance to enjoy “sucking face” at a “later date.” Moreover, as a man, the societal pressure to be getting laid all the time makes it extremely difficult, or at least socially illegible, for me to say no when I’m propositioned for sex. I’d be surprised if I was unique or even atypical for running into this problem from all sorts of angles. So, along with my actual business cards, these now reside in a pocket in my shoulder bag, my jacket, and my jeans.

Thinking further, it also occurred to me that these could also be used by someone who’s “pursuing,” rather than only by someone who’s being pursued. (Even though, y’know, that whole pursuer/pursued paradigm is problematic.) What if, before asking someone out on a date, or asking if someone wants to have sexy time with you, you handed them one of these, encouraging them to use it whenever they feel they need to? In so doing, you’d effectively be giving them a literal “out” and, in the process, helping model behavior that supports safer sex, and of course, enthusiastic (and ongoing!) consent.

What do you think? Would you use these “Rain Check” cards? Would you like others to?

thedailywhat:

This Is All Kinds Of Wrong of the Day: Miss Universe Canada announced yesterday that 23-year-old finalist Jenna Talackova of Vancouver was disqualified from the Donald Trump-owned beauty pageant, but didn’t provide a reason.

“She did not meet the requirements to compete despite having stated otherwise on her entry form,” competition officials said in a statement. Talackova, however, says she knows exactly why she was disqualified: She was born a man.

The 6’1” bombshell underwent sexual reassignment surgery in 2010 after living most of her life as a woman.

She wouldn’t speak with the press concerning the unceremonious scrubbing of her profile from the Miss Universe Canada website, but did take to Twitter to bemoan being “disqualified for being born.”

Many have noted that Miss Universe Canada’s only expressed requirements are that the contestant be a Canadian citizen and between the ages of 18 and 27. Nary a mention of gender confirmation surgery as being grounds for dismissal.

On Twitter, Talackova implied that she’s down but not through. “I’m disqualified, however I’m not giving up,” she tweeted. “I’m not going to just let them disqualify me over discrimination.”

[theprovince / ctv.]

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nanekirin:

Yes, I am.

nanekirin:

Oh, Kit! I wish I could stalk you forever.

need this NOW!

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all-black-every-thing:

It should also be stated that it was the Belgian colonialism that started the amputation of limbs in Africa, when they conducted massive genocide in what is today the Democratic Republic of Congo. Also, while many believe…

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Unf this tatt is amazing

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darquingdragon:

Amen, brothah! :)> (<— bearded smiley)