Anonymous said: OMG I JUST FOUND OUT ABOUT TRANSETHNICS SHOULD I BE MAD??? SHOULD I FELL PITIFUL??? MY GUT FEELING IS ASTOUNDINGLY NEGATIVE!!!!!
The answer is “yes”.
This shit makes me angry. What is it about White America that makes them, er, us think we can get with this?
Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.
what book is this?
This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.
I’m so glad I’m seeing more and more Lundy Bancroft quotes on my dash because this book CHANGES THE LIVES OF ABUSE VICTIMS.
The programs run for rehabilitating abusive men through the courts? Bancroft DESIGNED THEM. His programs are replicated ALL OVER THE WORLD.
He literally wrote THE book on abuser rehabilitation.
Here’s a link to a pdf copy. If you haven’t read this book yet, read this book.
Can we talk about how it seems like the entirety of the book is online on PDF, this making it accessible to anyone with an internet connection?
That is how we stop abuse.
We enable everyone to know what it looks like, so that when it happens, they can shut it down.
Arm yrself with knowledge!
Excuse the language on the notes guys but it’s so important everyone read this! Blew my mind!
79 MILLION adults in the U.S. are in medical debt. Do you honestly believe that all those people never went to college or don’t have a job?
Get the fuck out of here.
Lol good to know that only certain people deserve medical care
I wasn’t going to say anything about this. I wasn’t. But I have to. LET’S MAKE THIS INTO A LEARNING MOMENT, FRIENDS!
Yo, activedarth, few things about this message:
1.) You don’t know that mod’s gender identity.
2.) You don’t know that mod’s educational history.
3.) You don’t know that mod’s job history.
4.) You don’t know where that mod lives, and therefore you don’t know how much medical care costs for that mod.
5.) You are a terrible person, and I hope you never have to experience the crushing panic that comes with needing medical care while being unable to afford it.
6.) You’re really fucking terrible.
7.) Like, so terrible I almost think this has got to be a troll, but I checked out your blog and no. You really are just a really fucking horrible human being.
Followers: this isn’t permission to troll/threaten/whatever activedarth. This isn’t a request for that, either. Don’t do it. Don’t sink to this asshole’s level. But let me make something perfectly fucking clear:
This person is a literal pile of shit, and if you can avoid this person’s blog, I’d highly recommend it.
The funniest thing about the Engineering thing is that one of my best friends is a public engineer and they aren’t getting any work because of the government’s inability to get its act together regarding infrastructure funding. Same goes for a bunch of my friends in the hard sciences, a lot of the…
Right on, because of Economics. A mono skilled workforce is an impractical workforce, plus there’s the inherent Elitism in such an attitude.
Rolequeerness is not about sex. It’s about power. But insofar as sex is about power, then rolequeerness is simply a neologism pointing out the reality of sex as infused with inegalitarian power relations and describes one’s desire to undermine that inequity.
The idea that human relationships are infused with power imbalances is not some new insight birthed, fully-formed, from the imaginations of rolequeer people and no one else. That’s not what’s interesting about discussions of rolequeerness nor about rolequeer sex. What’s interesting about these things are the stories rolequeer people tell one another and ourselves about what we can do to sabotage our own positions as people with the ability and desire to dominate other people.
This is what distinguishes rolequeer sex from many other approaches to erotic intimacy: its core tenet that moving towards vulnerability together is a move towards safety; that submitting *with* someone else—rather than submitting to someone else—strengthens you both; that despite what we may have internalized in a pervasively abusive society, there is nothing fulfilling about dominating or about being dominated.
I spent a bit of time musing about how to describe rolequeerness succinctly, mostly spurred by unquietpirate's search for anarchist sex literature—as in literature about anarchist sex, not sex that anarchists have. This is what I came up with today.